I am that Girl by Alexis Jones

This past month in the Purpose Driven Mom Club, our book club book was “I am that Girl” by Alexis Jones. I picked this book to kick off our year because I know that working on growth and positive mindset matters more than all the goal-setting in the world.

When you live with a negative mindset, when you feel like you can’t accomplish things, when you play the victim, and when you just let life happen to you, it’s really hard to actually accomplish goals that light your soul on fire.

I am that Girl was our catalyst into kicking limiting beliefs to the curb and really and truly starting to believe that, even as busy moms, we can design a life we love!

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Here is the description from Amazon of “I am that Girl”.

In a crazy, media distracted world the important questions often get lost like: What’s your passion? What’s your purpose? Who do you want to be? Alexis Jones has built a career listening to and helping girls around the world figure out those questions in order to inspire them to think for themselves, to speak their truth, to discover their purpose, and to dream HUGE! Alexis believes that you’re not broken nor do you need to be fixed. You already are that girl who creates magic wherever she goes, who lives fearlessly, who inspires those around her to dream bigger, and who will leave the world better, just for having been in it. Stop listening to that voice inside your head that tells you you’re not good enough. Stop worrying that you don’t have the perfect body, perfect job, perfect relationship, or perfect anything for that matter. Stop letting other people draw boundaries and limits around your life. And start living the life that you truly want (now!), the one you didn’t think you had the courage to imagine, but the one that’s absolutely possible! Including stories from thirty incredible women, Alexis has compiled everything she’s learned into one complete guide to being That Girl, the best version of you.

In the Purpose Driven Mom Club, we have bi-weekly chats about the book of the Month and a live video chat with the main topics! While I can’t share all the goodies from the Club here, I wanted to share with you over 50+ quotes that I LOVED from the book I am that Girl!

I’ve created some as images so make sure you PIN the ones you love to your favorite board! All quotes below are credited to the author Alexis Jones unless stated otherwise.

Quotes from I am That Girl by Alexis Jones

“I am tired of feeling inadequate, imperfect, desperate for approval, and chronically insecure. I’m exhausted from feeling like I’m always falling behind in some invisible race against the clock, against other women and even against myself. It is a race I don’t remember the beginning, but one that I’ve decided to stop running. I decided, instead, to learn how to be who I am and to understand that that itself is more than enough, it’s extraordinary.”

“I am tired of feeling inadequate, imperfect, desperate for approval, and chronically insecure. I’m exhausted from feeling like I’m always falling behind in some invisible race against the clock, against other women and even against myself. It is a race I don’t remember the beginning, but one that I’ve decided to stop running. I decided, instead, to learn how to be who I am and to understand that that itself is more than enough, it’s extraordinary.”

“Living a ‘perfect’ life is like watching television in black and white; you take out all of the colors. We need the adventure, all of the highs and lows, the unexpected heartbreaks, the ecstasy, the challenges, and the sweet, smooth sailing. Life isn’t about picking out the parts you like and leaving the rest, it’s learning to coexist with it all and choosing to see the beauty, the grace, and the hilarity while also experiencing the inevitable disappointment and failure.”

“Clues to your passion are always around you. The sequence of events that led me to that stage began when I least expected it, but I was on the lookout for something more, something meaningful in my life. And even then I had to battle my natural instincts to experience it. You’ll only find your passion if you search and fight to discover it.”

“Don’t be afraid to try new things– it is only important that you do something that fuels you. Discovering how you can contribute to the world in a unique way makes you feel useful, inspired, and alive. It doesn’t have to come in some pretty package or make sense to anyone else, just you.

Our life’s mission is not to achieve the appearance of success or whatever version f success your parents, friends, or teachers want to tour you. Nor should you sit around and wait for someone to drop something wonderful into your lap. It is to discover that thing that makes you tick and then to spend a lifetime doing it. So fight to find it, to figure it out, to stumble upon it, and to chase it down. When you do, your passion will shine so brightly through you that it’s contagious.”

“Regardless of your circumstances or the hand you were dealt, we have no excuses not to rock and roll in this lifetime. No matter how you got here, what challenges you’ve had to overcome, or are still dealing with, I promise that you can find your true heart and learn how to trust yourself. Now is the time to start steering your own ship, regardless of where other people think you should sail.”

“People will judge you and your dreams. They’ll tell you you’re crazy and try to convince you that mediocrity is the smarter choice And that’s because it’s easier if you buy into the same lie they have, that no one person can really make a difference and that life is about ‘growing up’ instead of working toward you personally authored, happily ever after.”

“It’s the time itself that has the value, not the millions of tasks and chores and to-dos we try to pull off within the time. Time is precious, limited and the single most important resource supporting your genius. You don’t manage time, you spend it.”

“When you’re feeling overwhelmed or your body is giving you signs that you’re overdoing it, stop, breathe, and remember one thing: everything can wait. Fall in love with you. Love, support, validate, and nourish a relationship with yourself. Give yourself what so many of us are trying to get from others and just watch how much the world steps up to support you.”

“Your time is important, your energy is finite, and your attention is precious, so value who and where you spend it accordingly. You are the only one who can set those kinds of expectations and teach people how to treat you. Be selfish, and I promise everyone will benefit.”

“So instead of trying to fit a mold- size, color, boyfriend, or career path- find out who you are and what is your true voice in this world. There is no point in trying to become something you are not. There is a reason for you being who you are, and it is your job to find out what that is, because no one, and I mean no one on the planet, can be a better version of you than you can.. And if they don’t like what they see, they can simply look away.”

“We all have excuses, and they are as independent as each of us. What is it that you want but haven’t done, haven’t you accomplished? We all have that ‘thing’ we didn’t do, an opportunity missed, that haunts us. Regret is the worst, but it’s important to focus less on the things you haven’t done in life, and more on why you haven’t done them.”

“So when you begin to feel intimidated, question your goals or find yourself avoiding a task or project, get quiet and think about what you want and whether you still want it. Reread your manifesto and ask if what you’re doing and how you’re doing it aligns with your values, If it does, this will give you confirmation that you’re on the right track and perhaps the boost you need to get moving again.

And if you did that your path does not need some adjusting, you can do that with the clarity and confidence that your decision came from a place of careful consideration and not solely due to outside pressures and expectations.”

“Here’s the truth: most people are afraid to dream big so they live their lives with small dreams, with great self-imposed limitations, and with countless excuses to justify it. Living small and dreaming small is easy because you will never run out of excuses and why you don’t want to do something bigger. Excuses keep you safe, comfortable, certain, and create an illusion of control. But they are the fastest way to burst your dream’s bubble and knock down your hope-filled sandcastle.”

“At a certain point in your life, you’ll have to realize the sacrifices necessary to make your dreams come true, and you’ll be at the crossroads of the same tough choices. Will you be dedicated to the path that gets you where you want to go, despite it being far more difficult,or will you sell out to an easy-breezy bath that makes you in the opposite direction of where you really want to go? We are faced with these kinds of choices every single day, and fortunately, we get to decide which path we take.”

“Dreaming is a gift you give yourself and the one place you should be able to create and imagine anything with no judgment. The main reason we don’t dream is that we shut down the possibility before we even get the idea into our brains. Let go and dream. Big, if not downright huge.”

“Keep in mind that getting what you want is not necessarily the goal here, and that’s because the outcome of your actions is not always in your control. The real victory is in knowing that you are the kind of person who takes a shot every time, regardless of whether you’re guaranteed a basket.”

“Dreaming is essential to manifesting your future, but it’s all too easy to sink into the trap that life is always greener somewhere else. Part of dreaming is being contented where you are at this precise moment, choosing happiness not instead of you’re happy being contingent on ‘when all your dreams come true.”

“Perseverance will take you a long, long way. It will make a great difference in your life – the difference between achieving your goals and just sitting ac wishing things would change. Perseverance s means not taking no for an answer. It means just because one person doesn’t’ believe in your dreams, you aren’t any less enthusiastic.”

I hope these quotes inspired you, motivated you to do more, and gave you that confidence to take on the day! Make sure you go to Amazon and grab this book now and PIN this for later when you need that inspiration!

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