Cara Harvey 00:00:03 Welcome to the Purpose Driven Moms show here at A Purpose Driven Mom, we believe that it’s possible to manage your home, work on your personal goals, and grow and scale an online business. Most productivity tips out there tell you to hustle more and make you feel shame about not being motivated enough. And we’re here to dispel this myth. I’m Kara Harvey and I am on a mission to help work at home. Moms realize that they have the power to go after their dreams, take care of themselves, and manage their home without perfectionism, guilt, or having to sacrifice their sleep. If you’re ready to shift your thinking around productivity and get some practical tips to help you manage your mom life. Toss your earbuds in while you fold the laundry. And let’s do this! Welcome to the purpose of our Mom Show episode 418. Today, I want to talk to you about why it’s important to have in-person connections with other. And in particular, I want to tell you a little bit about how we’re doing it this September, a month and a half away at the purpose of her mom conference.

Cara Harvey 00:00:59 If you’ve not gotten your ticket, you can go to a purpose driven rom com slash conference. I am recording this early. If you’ve been listening to episodes, you know I’m batching ahead in the summer and at this exact moment, we do still have tickets available. So if we wind up selling out, I’m going to pull this episode. But if you’re hearing this, then you need to check it out. We are going to have the most incredible three days. I’m going to tell you a little bit about it, and then I want to talk to you a little bit about, in general, how we sometimes get in our own way because of the obstacles that we are facing and how we can combat it. Let’s talk about the conference real quick, and then let’s talk about what do we do when the obstacles in our head become so big we don’t go after our goals. The purpose of Your Mom conference is happening this September 28th through 29th in Philadelphia. I have had an in-person event on my heart for a long time, but my people have been asking.

Cara Harvey 00:01:48 I was a teacher for almost ten years. I love being in front of a group, and there’s just something about being around other people going after their goals. Now we do it in the purpose of Vermont Club virtually, but to be together, to get to mastermind, to not have. Oh. Top of the hour. Oh, gotta go pick up the kids. Oh, we have to stop to be able to go with the flow a little more and have time for ourselves. I’m just so excited. So for everyone has gotten their tickets, major hugs, that kind of weight or fist bump if you’re not a hugger in real life to get to connect. But some of the our goals of this conference is all about giving moms time to dream, to think about their goals, to work on their plan for the rest of the year, to feel rejuvenated and excited. I haven’t been to an in-person event myself in two years, and before that I used to travel. Like obviously, most of us like pre-pandemic, traveling those things a lot more often.

Cara Harvey 00:02:39 I would go to in-person networking events, personal development conferences, traveled to New Orleans, to Nashville, to Las Vegas multiple times for my network marketing company. And every time I came back feeling like I could conquer the world. Because for us moms, the day to day is hard, right? We’re driving the kids everywhere. We’re trying to check off the things the laundry is calling our name. The day to day life of a mom is a challenge. So when we get to step out, right when we get to say, I am going to do something different, I’m going to take just a couple days to think without somebody tugging on me or needing me, or having to wipe a butt when I’m potty training or drive a kid to a friend’s house right when I can just have this time for me. Not only are you gonna have time to take a breath, and that’s rejuvenating self-care, right? We’re going to learn. We’re going to network. We’re going to grow. Here’s kind of our agenda and what we have planned for you.

Cara Harvey 00:03:31 I’ll tell you a little bit about it, and then I’m going to talk to you about what happens when you have these goals in your life, when you have these dreams and these things you want to do, like maybe attending the conference and they just don’t work out because you have other things pulling at you. So we have two days together at this conference. What are we going to be covering? What are we going to be doing? I have three incredible guest speakers coming into town to also help you. I’m going to kick us off with our opening session where we’re going to set our intentions. Day one is all about the vision. It’s crafting what we are looking for out of the experience, and it’s also just giving you some time to take some breaths so we can get started. We’re going to spend a lot of time on day one, really focusing on the belief systems that we have that might be holding us back. My friend Krystal Bailey, she’s an incredible author and speaker, and she’s going to come talk to us about how do we let go of the person we think we’re supposed to be and step into the person that we know we are called to be? We’re craving.

Cara Harvey 00:04:25 And as moms, a lot of us lose our identity. A lot of us lose who we are inside of this motherhood journey. Crystal. Someone who’s reclaimed all of that in her life, and she’s going to share her story and give us some tips on it. I’m going to pause to invite you to something brand new we’re doing here at team ePDM, and that is the very first in-person, purpose driven Mom conference. September 28th and 29th. I am hosting an event right here in Philadelphia that you can attend where we can be together live. The goal of this conference is to help you decide what dreams you want to work on, what goals matter to you, and to really embrace the person you are. Now, in motherhood, we’re going to spend time mapping out the end of your year, creating time blocks for you to work on these dreams and goals. And I have three incredible guest speakers coming to help you embrace and love your mom life journey and go after your goals and dreams. This event is been on my heart for years, and if you go to a purpose driven romcom conference, you can hear and read all about it.

Cara Harvey 00:05:26 And I want to let you know that this event will sell out. We will be capping around 60 attendees, so as soon as it sells out, it is done. I want you to head to a purpose driven rom com slash conference, or check out the Shownotes for the link and come join us in Philadelphia. We are going to have the most incredible experience. It is in September. You have enough time to plan to make it happen, to tell a friend, we cannot wait to see you at the Purpose Driven Mom conference and have some in real life time together again. That’s September 28th and 29th, and you can go to a purpose driven romcom conference to learn more. We’re then going to take a break. Lunch and snacks all included. Plus, we also have a really good hotel rate with the hotel downtown that has free breakfast, so your meals will be completely covered if you wind up staying at that hotel. We then have my friend Kelly Thompson coming in, and Kelly is such an incredible coach and a speaker, and she’s talking about leaving perfectionism, right? So we just kind of left this session with Crystal.

Cara Harvey 00:06:19 We’ve set our vision. We talk about what we want. We figure that out now. It’s what’s holding us back. Kelly is going to talk to us about common obstacles, common perfectionist tendencies. How do we get past feeling like we can’t do things if we don’t show up perfectly well, then kind of have another session where we take this and deep dive a little bit further with me, and we’re going to be talking all about I know my obstacles. I want to make a practical plan around them, and then we’re going to come back the next day and we’re going to be ready to go. To be super practical, we are going to have small group hot seats and coaching to kind of kick us off. You can choose if you want to participate in those, because we’re going to have a smaller group around 30 people. Everyone’s gonna be able to get a lot of individualized coaching for me and my team. If you are a purpose driven mom club member and you’ve been on club calls, you know you get your 5 to 10 minutes and then that’s it.

Cara Harvey 00:07:05 We’re going to really be able to deep dive and help you in, sit into some hot seats. We’re also going to be very practical because this is happening at the end of September. Right. We want to plan out the the end of the year. So we’re going to spend some time on planning the holiday season, getting ahead of it, the time management and the time blocking. My friend Lori Palau is coming in on Sunday and she’s going to be talking all about the Enneagram. If you’ve ever taken a personality assessment, the Enneagram is a really comprehensive one where we’re going to not only figure out how you’re wired, but how do you lean into that? How do you take that to she’s a declutter expert, but not just your house. Yeah, we’ll talk about decluttering your house, but your schedule, your mindset. How do you take all of these things about yourself and use them to thrive? After lunch, we are going to continue. Time blocking. We are going to continue planning and we will have another coaching session.

Cara Harvey 00:07:51 We’ll end about 4:00 on Sunday so you can get home or stay if you have VIP ticket. Fridays, we’re going to have an extra day where we’re having dinner together, and then all lunches will be provided for VIPs, but you’ll get an extra coaching session. So that’s what the conference looks like a purpose driven romcom slash conference if you want to go get a ticket. But now I want to talk to you about what do you do when you want to do it? Maybe you’re listening to me like, yeah, I really want to be there. This conference sounds incredible. I need this desperately. But and we’re talking with the butts now, so I’m going to go with the butts in terms of the conference. But I want you to think about the butts also in terms of your goals, in terms of your life. Okay. So what might be going on in your head right now? I think the first time right now is like, I don’t have the time to do this. I get it scheduling in advance.

Cara Harvey 00:08:31 It’s August now. Scheduling six weeks out feels like I can’t even think about this. It’s back to school. I don’t know what events we’re going to have. I haven’t gotten my fall sports schedule for my kids yet. I get it and I understand. I am a mom of three. My oldest is going into his senior year. I have two other kids in multiple activities. I also have those same struggles. The point of our conference, though, is designed to be a break to rejuvenate you and empower you on your time. Okay. We are going to have you leave with a schedule for the rest of the year. Done. Now, when you think about your goals and you think I don’t have the time, like I cannot do this goal, I can’t work out, I can’t read, I can’t start my business. I want you to ask yourself, what can I do with the time I have? So getting away for two days? Yeah, that’s going to be challenging. You’re going to have to figure it a lot of logistics that we’ll talk about.

Cara Harvey 00:09:20 But I want you to think about what those two days can give you. Imagine having time to think. I always say this, you know, when I do work with my kids home this summer, they’re home, right? It takes me a lot longer to do things. Because if I could have 20 minutes, what I could do in 20 minutes, focus time without anyone bothering me takes me about an hour to two. Unfocused, right? Imagine having two days where you can be focused on yourself and I. Let’s talk right there about the brain right now. That objective probably in your head, that obstacle. It’s selfish. I shouldn’t do this for me. My family could use the money for the ticket. I need to be there. I need to do this. What would it look like if for two days you allowed yourself to think about you? I just want to pose that to you right now, financially. Let’s talk about it though, right? Ticket prices have gone up. so at the current time, I’m trying to think I think there are 497 right now.

Cara Harvey 00:10:15 They might be 547. I have to look because I know the prices are going to be going up. You can check that on the page. I understand we have a payment plan option for regular and VIPs. It’s two split pay. I’m contemplating opening a three split pay for it since we have a couple months before the event starts. So I understand that financially can be hard. I also understand that you’re like, I might have to fly. I’ve got to get the hotel room. But just a reminder that your meals are going to be included for you. So that’s one less thing you have to think about and where you are in Philadelphia. You can spend money if you want to sightsee, but Philadelphia is actually a really easy place to see a lot without spending a lot. The museums and the history. And it’s very walkable. So once you get here at night, you can go take a walk, grab something at Red and terminal, which is a couple blocks away, grab yourself some dinner and enjoy the sights for a low cost.

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Cara Harvey 00:11:55 Go to a purpose driven romcom checklist and get your copy. But I also just want to tell you that I understand we’ve been in places where financially, we couldn’t afford things as well. I know that when I invest in myself and I come back rejuvenated with a plan, I’ve given myself time back. That is priceless. That feeling and that empowerment. I just talked to somebody on a coaching call for the purpose of her mom club, and she said to me, she joined for the year and she said, I have been more productive and gotten more done in the past week since I’ve joined than I have in years. What would that cost to you? Right. And so I understand. I want you to check out the payment plan options. What if you’re nervous? I don’t know anybody there. Where are my introverts? Out. I promise I won’t hug you. We have a lot of networking opportunities that we’re going to have to get you to connect with each other. I know that for introverts, conferences and stuff like this can feel very daunting, but just know one, we are not going to force anyone to do anything they don’t want to do.

Cara Harvey 00:12:50 I also hate that, but if you’ve ever been around a Purpose Driven Mom event online, you know the vibe. Like we are very fun and very inclusive. We are also a very open group to anyone and welcoming. If you’ve ever participated in one of our team challenges or things like that, you know that people are just helpful sometimes. It’s so funny. We’ll do online events like our summits and things like that before my team can get even in there. To answer a question, one of our community members has done it for them. One of them has gone in and done it for them and just kind of figured it out and help them out. I just want to encourage you that if you’re going alone, you don’t have to be. We’re also have opened up our Facebook community group. That’s for anyone who’s attending to get to know each other. We’re going to be doing in August. This is going out in August, so we’re going to do one in July and we’ll do one in August.

Cara Harvey 00:13:36 We’ll be doing networking events just for conference attendees, so you can kind of come and just meet people beforehand so that you don’t have to feel like you don’t know anyone. We also have an opportunity to to set you up with a room share. So if you do want a roommate, we have a form you can fill out. That way we can help you, you know, connect you with someone else. And then we’re also going to have some time for the introverts. You know, we we have some brain breaks. I’m even thinking I haven’t talked about my team yet. I’ve just putting in like a self-care closing like an hour at the end where after we’re done, it’s just like quiet time and we put on music and you can bring your craft. If you crochet our latch hook, you can bring a book. And we’re just just to just decompress the day, journal things like that. I’m thinking about adding that in. I’m saying this now, it’s June, so I haven’t planned that out fully, but as I’m saying it, I’m I love this idea for my introverts to just kind of close out the night.

Cara Harvey 00:14:24 The other thing you might be thinking like, I don’t know if it’s for me, a couple of people that I don’t have a business. This is not a business conference, though. If you have a business, you can write this off on your taxes. So just an FYI, because it is a business expense because you’re learning. But we have people coming who are empty nesters, grandmas, people who have newer babies, toddler moms. This is really about getting to connect with people in different phases of motherhood and finding yourself along the way. So if you’re not sure if this is for you, I want you to email me. My email is Kara at Kara harvey.com. I’d love to hop on a call with you. I’d love to talk more so we can see, like, maybe it isn’t for you and what you’re expecting to get out of it. And I’ll let you know. Straight up. I’ve told a couple people like they’ve been asking for more business coaching, right? I’m not business coaching at this event.

Cara Harvey 00:15:08 That’s not a business event. So I’ve had some people ask about that. And I’ve said to them, you know, I think this isn’t the event for you. I’ll be honest with you. So just email me Kara at Kara harvey.com. Or you can go to a Purpose Driven Moms conference. That’s where, you know, we have all the details. I just want to remind you that the Purpose Driven Mom conference it is for you. Tickets are going to be going soon. They’re almost all gone. I’m recording this now, but like I said, it doesn’t come out for another six weeks, so I might just pull the episode. If they sell, you are going to leave feeling so much rejuvenation about your goals, about your confidence, about what you can do. You were going to learn some really cool skills that you can use for your time management, your productivity. You’re going to get to network and make connections with other incredible moms and just learn some new ideas and get coaching individual for you.

Cara Harvey 00:15:53 I don’t do one on one coaching anymore, but you’re going to get that at this event. You’re also going to have time for you self-care, reflection, things like that. So if you’re thinking about it, email, let me know. sometimes we host informational webinars. I don’t know what date I’m going to do for August, so if you just email us at help@harvey.com, our team can give you a recording of the last one we did that was like an info session all about the event. But prices are going up soon. Once we hit September we’re going to be at full price. Tickets will go. And this isn’t an urgency scare tactic. We literally don’t have enough room in the physical room that we’re in staying in. In Philadelphia, they’ve got the Duke and Duke board room in Philadelphia, and it only caps at a number, a certain number. So I would love to see you there. And I just want you to know if you are struggling, if you have any doubts, you need to be in the room where it happens.

Cara Harvey 00:16:39 Right where my Hamilton fans, right? This is the time for you before the holiday season gets so busy before the school year is just feeling overwhelming. Already coming out of summer already school has started. You’re maybe losing that relaxed feel you had this summer, and you could use this as like a boost and think of it like, Mario have he gets that little jumps up and he gets his power up. Right? This is your power up to get through the end of the year. I love to see you there. A purpose driven romcom slash conference. Please come join us. It’s going to be an incredible event. Thanks so much for listening to this episode of The Purpose Driven Mom Show. If this episode served you in any way, we would really appreciate it if you headed over to wherever you listen to podcast, hit that five star and leave a review and a rating. That’s how more moms can find us and we can grow our community. If you had a tip or an Make sure you come over and tag me at a Purpose Driven Mom on Instagram and share it with your friends.

Cara Harvey 00:17:32 The best way for us to get this message out there of less hustle and less shame and more intentionality, is for you to share it with people you know need to hear it. Thanks for listening. We appreciate you and I can’t wait to connect with you more outside of the podcast.